Gentlemen, welcome to the jungle. I’m sure that you are well aware of the fierce competition that we routinely encounter in our daily lives. We have to compete for jobs, social status and yes, Women. This is the fucked up reality that will not change anytime soon.
The initial encounter
It is a scientifically proven fact that the brains of men and women are psychologically different. You must learn to exploit these differences to your advantage. A basic knowledge of how the average woman thinks is the strongest weapon you can have when trying to start something with her. I’m aware that at 1st glance this sounds cold and calculating. However, after you start dating the woman you desire, it will be at this point that she will fall in love with you. Dating her will provide you with the opportunity to showcase who you really are, a nice, hardworking, good guy ;-)
The simple fact is that before we try to build any type of relationship we must 1st get her to open up to us. The starting point could be her accepting a date with or even just her talking to you right there on the spot. It’s during this critical initial encounter that she will decide whether or not you are the man she would like to build a relationship with. It is precisely at this point where you must be cold and calculating. She is sizing you up, comparing you to her idea of the perfect man.
One of the biggest mistakes most guys make is that when they try to impress chicks they do so as if the chick is “one of the guys”. Stay away from this type of behavior. You must always treat them like ladies. Very few men realize that women love to be treated like ladies.
Women worry much more then we do. They fret about things like work, money, health and family. A sophisticated approach in appealing to a woman involves the subtle suggestion that you will be “good for her future”. She needs to clearly understand that you can handle tough situations. You can be counted on to take care of things for her, and bring her happiness. Let her tell you what her concerns are. What bothers her? Explain to her how you dealt with similar situations, and offer her some intelligent suggestions. If she seems to be lacking self confidence tell her how capable she seems to you. Many times with your initial encounter with women this type of scenario will play itself out. She will evaluate your every response. She is testing you. At times a woman will casually ask you a question in an off-hand manner that will give you the impression that she is not really concerned with your response. However, in reality she is weighing your words very carefully. Make sure that you give her a sensible intelligent response.
Understanding relationships
Personal relationships are extremely important to women. It is their dream to meet a man who they will fall in love with. A woman enjoys her girlfriends company; however what she really longs for is a deep intimate relationship with a man. This is inborn. Every time a woman meets a man she is thinking of him in terms of “what kind of partner would he be?” If not for her then she will think of you as a potential boyfriend for 1 of her single girlfriends. Keep this in mind when you are in the company of women. Always put your best foot forward and never let your guard down.
It is a fact that women end relationships more often than men do. They know and understand more about them than we do. We tend to fall in love quicker. We do not communicate between our brains and our hearts. A very important rule of thumb is that you should always use your brain when it comes to the dating game. Always step back and evaluate the situation to ensure that you are in control.
An example of how men demonstrate true friendship is by inviting someone that they like to be with to a rugby or soccer game. Women on the other hand show friendship and trust by sharing their secrets. Very few men will open up and share their secrets with a woman. A great way to set yourself apart from other men who you are in direct competition with is to open up and tell her your secrets. If you do not she will feel as though she is not part of your life.
Success with hot women can be yours. You can have beautiful girls as companions and lovers. The 1st step is believing this reality. I stress the fact that rejections will occur, just move on to the next woman. Your future lover will be glad you did!
What women look for
Marrying some1 for love is a relatively new phenomenon. As you have no doubt heard in a social studies course, marriages in the past were always arranged by families. These arrangements were made for practical financial considerations, and love had nothing to do with it. Well, today the same practical considerations exist. Women will judge you by the job that you currently hold. Your future earning potential will be closely scrutinized. I really don’t think you should let yourself be tossed aside just because your career prospects suck at the moment.
Don’t be too hard on women for being this way. We can be difficult as well. Foe example, if you met an ugly girl and had a 1 night stand with her you would not be bothered if she ever called you again. You would not care because she wasn’t very pretty to begin with. Now, is that nice? Of course it’s not. Bottom line, it’s a cruel world.
You can learn a lot by reading personals in any newspaper. Look at what men and women want. Men want young hot wives. Women want a man who is financially secure, or who has potential of achieving financial security. This is why you must demonstrate that you are capable of earning enough money to provide a more than comfortable lifestyle for your future wife and kids. There are other positive attributes that you need to convey to a woman. You must be kind and intelligent. Act with a certain level of sophistication, have an experienced air about you. You can project all these images by the way you speak to her. Be calm, confident, in control, and above all, always give her the impression that you have the utmost respect for her.
Setting yourself apart from the competition
It is the greatest thing in the when our love is returned to us by a beautiful woman that we desire. This will happen for you if you keep these concepts in mind the next time you hit the dance floor or a local club. Think ATTRACTION. In the 1st stages of a relationship she will go through an idealization process concerning you. She will magnify all your good qualities in her mind. You will then be compared to her standard of absolute perfection and excellence. It is critical during this part of the game to be as perfect as you can be. This does not mean that you turn into a doos later on. It simply means that you must set yourself apart from the competition in order to establish the relationship with her in the 1st place.
Understanding women
It is crucial to show a woman that you care about her accomplishments. Don’t wait for her to tell you things about her career or about herself in general. Rather than waiting for her to tell you about these things you should 1st ask her about these subjects, and provide advice. Your inquiries will indicate to her that you are genuinely interested in what goes on in her life, and you are willing to provide support.
Many men are just plain idiots in that they neglect everything their girlfriends do. This is an enormous mistake that eventually sends those women to the arms of another guy. Do not fall into that trap. Be generous and become part of her life, like she’s apart of yours.
In doing this it is critical to display a sense of loyalty in your character. Women are good judges of such traits, thus don’t be fake about it. She will see you as a protector, provider, and some1 who cares about himself and those he loves. Whether she realizes it or not, these traits are critical in her selection of a man.
Getting noticed
Before I go on to the next section, I want stress one last time the importance of the initial encounter. In referring to the “initial encounter” I’m not only talking bout the 1st time you meet her. I’m also referring to the 1st few weeks of the relationship. The attraction stage. You must do everything possible to enhance your physical appearance. There is no way around this. If you’re fat, get on a weight loss program. The truth is that a clean-cut, healthy appearance on a man is very important to the vast majority of women.
You will often hear ppl say that looks don’t count and it’s personality that’s important. That is BULLSHIT! In real life dating you get 1st the attraction of the woman with your physical attraction. Once the physical attraction takes place you will then have the chance to display your personality. You can be sure that the fat, unclean looking guy with the gorgeous woman on his arm has plenty of cash in his pocket. There are exceptions, but in general this is how it works.
The point is that anyone can improve their outward appearance. It’s a matter of recognizing the importance of doing so. If you get in shape, and maintain a clean, healthy look you are more than 3 quarters of the way there.
Making her feel special
Poets would have us believe that love cannot be explained. However I really think that we can take a common sense look at what attracts and what repels. Women will want to be near men that make them feel needed and loved. This should not be a difficult task considering the payoff. Think of all the men out there who act like assholes and you will immediately see how a guy like you will soon have more girlfriends than there are hours in the day, if you keep the above in mind.
A lot of the things that we need to do to attract women are hard. That’s life. Life is not always easy. The simple fact is that to win at rugby you need to hit ppl. To win with women you need to beat out other men. These are the plain simple facts. Step back and take a close look at the principles that I have just discussed. You will no doubt be successful with the opposite sex once you understand and begin to apply these concepts.
Money is a factor in virtually every relationship. You will need money to go out on interesting dates such as the movies or to a restaurant. However, make sure you don’t give the impression that you are a big spending rich bitch, even if you really are. We want to avoid the big spender image because these type of ppl usually only have gold diggers around them. Your goal is to get her interested in “you, the person”, not in your money. Spend moderately, and show her a good time. If you don’t then other guys will.
Approaching her
There she is, you see a beautiful woman and you would like to get to know her. You could be at a club or outside during your lunch hour. There are plenty of hot chicks around. However, this one comes out of nowhere, and really captures you attention. What do you do?
I’m sure that in the past you have probably let opportunities such as this one just slip away. You see her. She captures your attention. However, you do nothing about it. She walks out of your life, and you never see her again. Well that’s not gona happen this time. You will approach her this time, and start up a conversation. The 1st step will be to get in the right frame of mind. This is the single most important thing in picking up pretty women.
You must truly believe that you are worthy of her. You deserve a hot woman to be you companion. Your attempt will be half-hearted and doomed top failure if you do not feel worthy of her. The real secret to scoring with women is simply having the guts to go over and start up a conversation. Always keep in mind that you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. You go up to her and say “HI”. It’s that simple. Sure there’s more to say. However, this is the essence of what you must do.
Interpreting her subtle signals to your advantage
In picking up beautiful women there are no complicated formulas involved. You simply need to keep a few fundamental things in mind. The 1st 1 is interpreting her subtle signals to your advantage. This means getting a sense of who she is before you begin speaking to her. You observe her for a few minutes and ask yourself: what is her body language telling me? What do her clothes, hair, posture, mannerisms, ect say about her? All of this information that you visually collect gives you an idea of who she is, and what she’s about. It’s important to go through this analyzation process due to the fact that it will make you more comfortable when you begin to speak to her. If her mannerisms indicate to you that she is a shy person, you will then use a more delicate approach. With her and speak on the soft side. On the other hand if you detect that she is really an outgoing tyoe of person then you want to demonstrate a more lively side of yourself. In either case, keep away from shit like “Hey babe, how ya doin?” and “Wanna have some fun?” You don’t ever want to use any lines like that. After you say “Hi” you can introduce yourself and mention that she caught your attention and you just had to come over and at least find out if she’s single. It’s critical to have a relaxed, friendly and easygoing way about yourself. Never be hasty. Don’t ever seem desperate.
The importance of humor
Women love to laugh, so you can always use a bit of humor to your advantage. This is a great ice breaker. It is one of the best ways of beginning a conversation with a woman. You can start off by saying, “I heard a funny story… may I tell it to you?” you will be shocked at the number of times that she will say “Sure, why not”. She will love to hear it. Your job is to make sure that you have a funny antidote to relate to her. You can look at comedy tapes or joke books to come up with something that is especially charming.
Many times off the cuff comments work much better than well thought out pick up lines or jokes. You need to judge the situation and determine what is best for you to use.
Being yourself
Let her see the real you. This is important to remember. A lot of the times it is difficult for men to be relaxed when they approach women. This is mainly because we are often trying to be some1 we are not.
I mentioned earlier that we need to put ourselves in a better light than we’re actually in and that we could do this by slight exaggeration. This is fine if carried out in a discreet manner. Otherwise you will come off as a poser and a liar. You will be most relaxed when you display your true ideal self.
Getting to know her
In conversation tell her about yourself. Tell her where you went to school and what your hobbies are.
You can talk about music, movies and books. You want to show her that you are a well rounded person who takes part in a variety of activities. It will be during this conversation that you will gather up as much information as possible about what she like to do. You will ask her about her hobbies and her other interests. Then you just sit back and listen closely and carefully.
This is where adapting your personality will come into play. You will indicate to her that you have great interest in some of the things she has told you she enjoys, even if you currently do not. Once you really get to know the things she likes and start to do them with her there is a good chance that you will also begin to genuinely like doing them. The important thing to remember in the beginning is that you must be open minded. Having an open mind is extremely important in developing a common ground between you and a woman.
Up to this point you have accomplished a couple of very significant things. 1st of all, by the very act of approaching her you have separated yourself from the pack. She realizes this was not easy for you to do. Most men shy away. A lot of men are afraid that women will think that they are idiots for approaching them. In fact just the opposite is true. She will love being approached in such an honest and straight forward manner. Even if she is not available for a date she will still consider you a gentleman. Why? Because you were indeed a gentleman. That’s why.
The second significant thing you have done up to this point is the development of a common ground.
A lot of beautiful women feel that men approach them because they are only interested in getting laid. You have to demonstrate that you are interested in her for herself as a person, in her activities, and that you are just not using her for sex. Your tone of voice should be calm and confident. The expression on your face is relaxed. You are giving her complete attention as she speaks to you. This type of setting, and mind set, will allow you to concentrate on other aspects of the dating game besides sex. You listen, and if necessary adapt your personality to her interests. If you concentrate on perfecting this part of the game you will see that the sex will come naturally.
Get out there – be aggressive
You will only go out on a limited amount of dates if you are always waiting for formal introductions from friends and relatives. You need to go out and meet women on your own. Take the initiative. Be aggressive. The 1st step is just getting out there and doing it. I have found it helpful to have a few stories in mind that you can tell a woman in your initial meeting. It’s a good idea to commit a couple of interesting stories to memory. These stories will prove invaluable in the event that you are at a point in the conversation where both parties have nothing to say. Men are always concerned with this problem. Committing a good story to memory is an excellent way to avoid that dreaded deadly silence. You need to understand that she may be as nervous as you are. She may not know what to say. Thus, your story may be a life saver.
As I mentioned earlier on, you must also make sure you always flatter a woman. Women love compliments, so provide them with plenty. Don’t be ridiculous about it though. You must make sure there is some truth in the compliments. Avoid exaggerations. You should always concern yourself with being interested, rather than interesting.
Selling yourself
You don’t have to be smart, handsome or rich to meet beautiful women. However it won’t help you much if you are dumb, ugly and poor. The point that I’m trying to make is that you must make a good 1st impression. Your actions will demonstrate that you are a good person, exciting, smart and romantic. You are exactly what she is looking for.
You will not be able to demonstrate all your qualities in 10 minutes. However, you can give an overview of your general features that will leave her curious, and wanting more.
Each situation is different. However, as long as you use these concepts and incorporate your own unique style, you will notice that you will have more success with women than you thought was ever possible.
After the bedroom action
You are now done with the best humping session she has ever had. You have completely blown her mind. Both of you are lying on the bed exhausted. Sometimes a woman will feel sad at this point because the realization sets in that the great sexual feeling cannot last forever. It’s a psychological thing that quite a number of females experience. It is at that time that you might consider taking her into your arms and letting her know how special she is to you. You might even suggest that she spend the next weekend with you in a place such as Plett. That’s right, I’m dead serious. Of course it doesn’t need to be as extravagant as that, but you can offer her something special. The reason for this line of thinking is two fold: One, you are instantly injecting a lot of excitement that will lift her spirit sky high. The 2nd reason is that you will be instantly separating yourself from most men, since as soon as the sex act is over men will usually turn on their side and go to sleep.
I think that it’s a great idea to surprise her with instant weekend getaways. She will always have fond memories of you that will last her a lifetime. You will make her feel like the most special girl in the world. Remember that you have probably wasted money on countless things that were not as meaningful as a weekend together with this beautiful woman. In addition give her flowers her flowers, chocolates, or take her to a good restaurant where they serve her favorite food. You will instantly show her your romantic side with actions such as these. You will separate yourself from other men by doing such things during any day of the year, not just on special occasions such as birthdays.
Places to meet women
You can meet women all over the place. At museums, elevators, churches, clubs, parks and even on the street. You can be creative and out yourself in a position where you would be the only man among many women. You can join art classes or cooking seminars. I know that these are common sense ideas but I also realize that many of us men overlook these obvious situations. You will have the women competing for your attention in situations such as this. Give it a try and see what I mean. I can tell you that it has worked well for me. I do my laundry each week at a laundromat that’s filled with women, each one waiting their turn to talk to the “nice single guy who’s so polite”. For this to work nicely thought it should be a laundromat close to a varsity or college.
If you play your cards right you can be scoring like crazy at places like the supermarket while all the other guys are striking out every night at clubs and pubs.
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